Emily Chadbourne Mindset Coach Melbourne What To Do When Floundering Reach Out

What to do when you’re floundering!

One of the strangest feelings in the world is when nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either. It is quite literally the worst.

It’s a feeling of discontent that can’t be explained by logic or reason, that nagging voice that speaks without words and follows you around like dog shit on a shoe that you thought you’d washed off but no, there’s some residual muck there, and it stinks. Even after the years of personal development, the hours spent listening to podcasts and lists and lists of bloody gratitudes, life is still not as you’d like it to be. But how do you want it to be? And cue the fog machine. Because, nothing is wrong so how can you explain what is wrong?

Sure, earning more money would always be nice because who doesn’t like stuff? But material success doesn’t soothe the soul or satisfy the thirst for something more and money isn’t the issue, not really. Because money can’t buy the unseen. To the outside world it sounds like everything is absolutely fine – it is all being held together, but inside it’s a mess because words can’t articulate this feeling that makes no sense.

And who do you turn to? To confide in your partner means reassuring your partner that they are not the problem (although…) and speaking to your boss might make you sound ungrateful or unmotivated and it’s not that you hate your job (although…).

Emily Chadbourne Mindset Coach Melbourne What To Do When Floundering Reach Out

And so you turn to that one friend who usually has an impossibly middle classed name like Clemmie or Lottie or Daisy and who seems to glide through life making her own Kombucha and #lovinglife in her magazine styled house and in a moment of full disclosure you admit to her that you feel like something is missing; that time is laughing at you and that there is a sense of growing unease. And Clemmie or Lottie or Daisy says “so what would make you happy?” and you want to punch her square in the middle of her unwrinkled face because there is no answer right now to that inane question. So you say, “oh ignore me, I’m fine” as you try not to cry onto the delicious pumpkin seed loaf she’s just whipped out of the oven and served with organic homemade peanut butter, that bitch!

Well, the good news is you are not alone. Almost every one of my clients comes to me feeling exactly this way, slightly discontented, a little disillusioned and kinda disheartened by life. And feeling guilty for feeling this way (because if we’re feeling a bit shit we may as well throw some guilt around and really get the party started hey!)

Here are my top 3 insights to help you feel less alone, less confused and heck, maybe even driven to take some inspired action.

1. Most people in this vortex of choice and confusion actually have some crazy idea of what they would really like life to be like, but it seems too crazy to actually say out loud.

The moment they think “maybe I could be an actress, or start that clothing line, or travel the world with Alan, my performing hamster” they immediately begin to list all of the restrictions and limitations that destroy the idea before it’s even begun. You’re not meant to know how your dreams are going to come to you. If you knew that you’d already be touring with Alan across Europe.  Using your current results as evidence of what you can achieve is keeping you struck with your current results. 4 years ago I was waiting tables and all I thought I could do was wait tables because that’s the only evidence I’d accumulated. Any other idea that came to me was instantly followed up with “I’m not qualified” or “I don’t have the money” or “maybe 10 years ago” and so I stayed stagnant. It wasn’t until I learnt about how to harness the power of my subconscious instead of listening to my conscious mind that I started my own global 6 figure business. So, do yourself a favour and DREAM. Put down your perceived limitations because it is only when you rise above your current circumstances that your circumstances can change.

2. A huge and unspoken fear that I observe in my clients is the fear of success – what if they outgrow their partner or their friends or their family tribe?

Well I am a huge believer in two things. One – don’t be a wanker (and if you’re not a wanker you won’t be one of those smug successful knobs that other people resent) and two, the right people will be inspired by your success, not intimidated by it. And even more than that, when you shine brightly, you give others permission to do the same.

 3. It’s a strange paradox that we often stay disappointed with life in the fear of being disappointed by life.

What if we ask for more and it doesn’t happen, and we have to bear the crushing feeling of an expectation not met? What if we upset the mediocre and instead of getting better it gets worse? Don’t push your luck, be happy with what you’ve got and don’t ask for more! But one thing I know for sure is that nothing is permanent and none of us is getting off this planet alive and no one takes their last breath and says, “I’m so pleased I didn’t take any chances, I’m so glad I didn’t fulfil my potential, and I’m thrilled that I spent my adult life treading water until I sank.”

If this resonates then believe me, you are not alone, nor are you stuck. There is an answer!

I have a totally FREE 5 day video course which is just about to launch and it is designed specifically to help you shift out of the pattern that is holding you in this feeling of being stuck. Through our 5 days together we address the stories you are telling yourself about what is and isn’t possible for you, we acknowledge and manage the fears that are causing your inaction and there is also a huge bonus – a masterclass in the science of manifestation.

PLUS I have included all sorts of free gifts for you, including exclusive meditations designed to shift you into a vibration of abundance so you can more easily attract the people, circumstances, experiences and opportunities to have your desires manifest, even if you aren’t clear on what those desires might be quite yet.

If you’d like to join a growing number of women across the globe who are waking up to their power and creating lives of true abundance, freedom and joy for themselves and their loved ones, then drop me an email info@emilychadbourne.com and I will personally make sure that you are one of the first to have this FREE 5 day video course sent to your inbox.

I believe in you, and remember, anything is possible.

Em x

Comments 5

  1. Is this only for women? The entire (very well written, as always) article really resounded with me and my current situation and had grabbed me by the balls to start taking ownership and do something about it, so I eagerly read to the bottom of the page to see how to sign up for the free 5 day course, only to for it to talk about the “Growing number of women across the globe…….

    Surely this is equally appropriate to both genders? 😞

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